Taking a break. When dicusing taking a break its important to know exactly what “a break” is. Urban dictionary AKA the be-all final word for anything within the pop culture zeitgeist has this to say about “taking a break”
1. In a long, committed relationship; the couple are going through some confusion as to what they really want. They ‘take the break’ in hopes that after a certain amount of time apart, they will A) miss each other enough to realize they really love each other and want the other person back or B) realize they’re better off without them.
Sometimes they do get back together and really do benefit from taking a break. Sometimes they don’t.
2. In a less committed relationship; she/he takes a break with their Love Interest (L.I.) because the L.I. is not interesting enough, or not what she/he expected. He/she takes a break from their L.I. because they’re not hot enough or they’re too clingy. People in these kind of relationships seldom get back together after taking a break.
Yeah, I think it goes something like this:
1. guy/girl: “I really do care about you, but we’ve grown apart and I don’t know if I’m in love with you anymore. I think we should consider taking a break, so I can have some time to myself to figure it out.” (said in all honesty, with good intentions).
2. guy/girl: “I really do care about you, but we’ve grown apart and I don’t know if this relationship is what I want anymore. I think we should take a break, so I can have some time to myself to figure it out.” (most likely said to make the other person feel better, so you can make a quick escape and move on).
So, now that we’ve covered what it is and means to take a break; let’s look into good ideas/bad ideas for taking a break.
It’s a good idea to take a break if you are fighting a lot and can’t seem to stop.
It’s a good idea to take a break if you are having doubts about commitment.
It’s a good idea to take a break if your partner cheated on you and you need time to make a decision.
It’s a good idea to take a break if you are not satisfied in the relationship for a long time.
It’s NOT a good idea to take a break if you just want to win a fight or have the upper hand.
It’s NOT a good idea to take a break if you plan on sleeping with someone else.
It’s NOT a good idea to take a break if the issue can be solved by communication and/or therapy.
I know that usually I go into every possible aspect of a topic in these articles but, this time I’ll let you watch the episode of Quest For Player 2. What I will do though, is just share my opinion on what taking a break is supposed to do.
Taking a break in a relationship doesn’t mean ending a relationship. Like what it says, it’s a break only. A break that helps you and your partner to have room for reflecting on your thoughts and emotions; and for thinking about your future with or without your partner.
Now, before you even take the time to tell your L.I. That you want to take a break. I suggest you do a self-check first. I have taken the liberty of creating a list of questions you should answer honestly, and without ego.
Take a break self-check
1. Why are you really taking a break?
2. Is a breakup a foregone conclusion?
3. Are you willing to lose them?
4. Do you want to have a contact?
5. What are the ground rules, and how long will it last?
6. How are you going to spend your time during the break?
Ultimately, the decision of how you approach the topic is up to you. You are a capable human being and you can make desicions for yourself. All we can do his helo you clearly see your reasons for taking a break. Validating them is up to you. You know what you can handle and what is too much for your relationship. Just be honest with yourself, be honest with your L.I. and together you can figure out what is best. After all; you chose to read this piece on Taking a break and watch the episode of Quest For Player 2. Now just share this article with as many people you know and continue to look for more articles right here on That Hashtag Show to keep up to date with everything trending in Geek-Pop-Culture.
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